Now, in a sense every individual has not one but four IQs, and it is virtually impossible for one person to develop all four of his or her capabilities equally. The kind of operation practiced most develops most, while that practiced least develops least. In normal development the Idealists instinc- tively practice diplomatic actions far more and far earlier than the others, and therefore end up more highly skilled in diplomacy than in logistics and strategy, and much more than in tactics. Of course, circumstances can sometimes induce Idealists to develop those operations that do not come easily to them, and with lots of practice they can even show a good deal of talent in their short suit, tactics. For example, as adults NFs often try their hand at tactical activities such as gourmet cooking, ceramics, sculpting, painting, or playing a musical instrument, and given enough practice they can come to be quite skilled in these hobbies.
Note in the chart that the NFs’ diplomatic skills develop far beyond their tactical skills. Also, note that their strategic and logistical skills can be almost equally developed, depending of course on circumstances equalizing the amount of practice they are given.
The reason for this potential equality in their second and third suits is that NFs share abstractness of thought and speech with NTs, the strategists, and they share cooperativeness in implementing their goals with the SJs, the logisticals, and so have some interest and aptitude for long-range planning and for managing supplies and services. SPs, by the way, have the same potential as NFs for developing their logistical and strategic skills, but for the opposite reasons: SPs share concrete communication with SJs and utilitarian implementation with NTs. Thus, the NFs and SPs usually end up mirror images of each other in their IQ profile, just as happens in the case of NTs and SJs.
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Type Contrast: ENFP vs. INFP
After writing this post, I was asked to do more, so here goes.
Just as in every type, the order of cognitive functions is going to mean that the ENFP is quite different from the INFP, both in how they perceive the world and how they react to it.
Both personalities are humanitarians and feel passionately about certain causes. Whatever they set their mind to, they work toward. Each is particularly sensitive and seeks affirmation from the people they love. Without encouragement in this area, they may sink into depression or emotionally distance themselves from the people who fail to fulfill their emotional needs. Both can be easily hurt and has a tendency to be individualistic, with a resistance toward anyone’s attempts to “force” them into a certain way of life.
The ENFP can seem introverted in their need for quiet time to think, while the INFP can be very outgoing around their friends, giving the impression of extroversion. In many ways, they appear identical, but the INFP tends toward shyness and wants to fully assess a situation before throwing themselves into it, where the ENFP is more initially outgoing and prone to diving into the middle of things right away.
ENFPs enjoy people, and are stimulated by being around them, but also need alone time to recharge and decide if the day spent with other people accomplished what they wanted to accomplish. Being on the right life path that aligns with their personal beliefs and values is important to them. This is even more important to the INFP. The INFP feels a strong need to be independent and make their own decisions. The INFP confronts new ideas by asking, “how do I feel about this?” where the ENFP is excited by the idea first, and then processes it through their value system.
The ENFP has lots of ideas, and wants others to be just as excited about them. Because their extroverted intuition is so prominent, they will be easily distracted by new information and ideas, and also keenly aware of what is happening around them. ENFPs are very good at tuning in to others and discerning if there is a problem; as their extroverted thinking (determination to do something) is so close to their emotions, they will want to fix the problem. The INFP may share the ENFP’s concerns but is less driven to take action, since they want to carefully consider things before involvement. The ENFP’s high-ranking Te also means they need to think out loud to process information. The INFP will do this as well, but with less frequency, since they must filter information through three other cognitive functions first.
Since the ENFP’s thinking function is next to their feeling function, they are going to act emotionally but follow that emotion with rationality. They may be overcome with unexpected emotion but a moment later, decide not to follow their impulse. It’s harder for the INFP to separate their emotions from their decision-making. Their first response is personal values, their second is possibilities, their third is past experience, and then their logic.
The strength of the INFP lies in their keen insight into human emotions; much like the INFJ, they can literally feel others’ conflict and pain and are able to strongly identify with it and empathize. They are natural counselors, always ready with a kind word and encouragement. The ENFP will also encourage you but then strive to find a solution. Both are difficult to get to know (their feeling/intuition makes them cautious) but utterly devoted to the people they love.
The INFP’s introverted sensing makes them more sentimental than their extroverted counterpart, but also more inclined to learn from past experiences. They respect the traditions of old. It’s important to them that things be true to the original (the INFP will struggle with changes from book to screen, because they remember the original, where the ENFP may be more forgiving if they haven’t read the book in awhile). The INFP is more likely to keep mementos and artifacts in their home that remind them either of personal history or a particular time period.
Under stress, the types are going to behave similarly. The ENFP will be driven to action and put aside sentiment to do it, but sometimes can get caught up in a wave of remorse over past mistakes; this is their Te (rational action) conflicting with their Si (comparing the present situation to a past situation). I must take action, and I will use past experiences to help me make a decision. The INFP filters their problem-solving through prior experiences. This happened to me last time, it’s not going to happen again.
If there is any type driven to change the world for the better, it is the ENFP. They come up with ideas to champion and flit from one thing to another, becoming more and more excited as they recruit others who believe in their vision along the way. The INFP will be more cautious to share their ideas until they have processed them, then proceed with quiet confidence.